After V-Day is Over
Well, well, well … Valentine’s Day is over. The candy has been eaten, the flowers are wilted, and the stuffed animals are probably on the floor in the closet somewhere. All that remains about this “all important” day are the memories. But why should it end there? I know that we have all heard someone say something similar to what I am about to say, and that is don’t show me love one day out of the year and neglect me the other 364 (or in this year 365).
I have never been a big Valentine’s Day fan. I am the person that walks around and wishes people “Happy VD” (lol, and yes I mean exactly what you think I do) First of all, it’s a Hallmark holiday. It’s like Grandparent’s Day… just another day someone invented to sell a card. Second of all, I just think it’s a waste. If you can’t proclaim your love for me throughout the year, please save your cards, balloons, and candies on February 14 because I will believe that it is all for show, but not for my benefit.
Don’t misunderstand me, yes, I do believe that if you love someone you should proclaim it as often and as loud as possible. And that is my whole point about Valentine’s Day. You should proclaim it as often and as loud as possible. Do I like to be acknowledged by my significant other on Valentine’s Day? Yes. But all that pink and red stuff in the stores make me question your sincerity. I have rules that I follow, and those rules have been shared with my significant other on many occasions, not just Valentine's Day because they apply any time of the year.
I have never been a big Valentine’s Day fan. I am the person that walks around and wishes people “Happy VD” (lol, and yes I mean exactly what you think I do) First of all, it’s a Hallmark holiday. It’s like Grandparent’s Day… just another day someone invented to sell a card. Second of all, I just think it’s a waste. If you can’t proclaim your love for me throughout the year, please save your cards, balloons, and candies on February 14 because I will believe that it is all for show, but not for my benefit.
Don’t misunderstand me, yes, I do believe that if you love someone you should proclaim it as often and as loud as possible. And that is my whole point about Valentine’s Day. You should proclaim it as often and as loud as possible. Do I like to be acknowledged by my significant other on Valentine’s Day? Yes. But all that pink and red stuff in the stores make me question your sincerity. I have rules that I follow, and those rules have been shared with my significant other on many occasions, not just Valentine's Day because they apply any time of the year.
- When you buy someone a card, actually READ the card. Sometimes even the most well-meant sentiments have been ruined by a card that someone failed to completely read. My aunt passed recently, and a fraternal sister of mine from another chapter in another state sent me a card that was printed with “Sorry for the loss of your Mother”. I know that her feelings were sincere, yet the meaning and even some of the true sincerity was lost in the fact that she either didn’t read the card that she sent me or didn’t pay attention when the notice went out about my aunt’s passing. If you can’t find a card that sums it all up for you, make one. Which brings me to number 2.
- Flowers are nice, as are other material things, but it is ALWAYS the thought that counts. It means more to me for someone to come home with my favorite magazine or my favorite candy bar than a dozen roses. This means that you were standing in line at the grocery store, or just happening by a magazine stand and you saw this and it made you think of me. It means that you think of me. Knowing that you are on someone’s mind is a HUGE turn-on.
- Cards and candy are nice, but a kind word goes a long way. Compliments, especially SINCERE compliments, show someone that you not only appreciate the person that they are, but that you like (even LOVE or ADORE) the person that they are. It shows that no matter how long it may have been, there is still something in that person that keeps you there. Tell them what it is, and be as specific as possible.
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