"Feels so good, when you’re doing all the things that you want to do
Get the best out of life, treat yourself to something new
Keep your head up high
In yourself, believe in you, believe in me
Having a really good time, I’m not complaining
And I’m a still wear a smile if it raining
I got to enjoy myself regardless
I appreciate life, I’m so glad I got mine
So I like what I see when I’m looking at me
When I’m walking past the mirror
Aint worried about you and what you gonna do
I’m a lady so I must stay classy
Got to keep it hot, keep it together
If I want to get better
You see I wouldn't’t change my life, my life’s just….. fine"





Yes, Mary! Sing it girl!!

This song has become my new theme song ... "I won't change my life, my life's just fine!"

This post is about 2 very important things that I have learned in my life. They are 1) LOVE and ACCEPT yourself, and 2) LOVE and ACCEPT the life that you are living, and Mary hit it on the head both times with this one!!

The first time I heard this song, the part that stuck out to me the most was "I like what I see when I'm looking at me when I'm walking past the mirror". And after many, many years of having self esteem and self image problems, I can finally say that, yes, I like me. No, I LOVE what I see looking back at me in the mirror! When she smiles at me and I smile back at her, the light that radiates in the room is overwhelming! Do you really feel what I'm saying? Now, don't get me wrong, because I am far from conceited. I am just a woman that is (finally) comfortable in her own skin.

For so, so, so many years I looked at what society considered attractive and tried to make myself conform to it. I tried every diet imaginable, and even made up some of my own. I had weave, I wore wigs, I colored my hair, cut my hair, applied makeup, wore acrylic nails, colored contacts... yes, I tried everything that I could and nothing made me happy with the person that I saw in the mirror. It took me forever to realize that I would never be happy with that person because that person WAS NOT ME! Whew! So I started, little bit by little bit, accepting what I saw. Ok, so I am not a size 4. SO WHAT?! The average woman is a size 14, so guess what ... I am normal! (Sorry skinny girls but yall are so out of style! *smile*) I had to realize that "perfect" was not "beautiful" and that "perfect" did not exist. I started learning that my personality spoke volumes and that my intelligence was way more important than my size.

Self esteem is something that I am so big on when it comes to teenage girls. I think that it is so important for them to know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Do you know when I actually dissected that saying and got a full understanding of it? A month ago on my birthday. Something just came to me and said "it doesn't matter what THEY think ... if you see your beauty, then you ARE beautiful!"

The second thing that caught me about this song was "I won't change my life, my life's just fine". It is in human nature to complain when things aren't going the way we want them to about how much life sucks. But guess what, I bet that no matter what horrible situation you find yourself in, there's someone out there that would kill to be in your situation instead of theirs.

I have been through some SHIT in my life, I am here to tell you. I have been wronged, I have been hurt, I have been abandoned, I have wronged people, I have hurt people. And in all of this, I have learned very valuable lessons. But you know what, and I have said this so many times in my life, I would not change not one single thing that I have been through because it makes me the person that I am ... and I have to say, I am one hell of a person!!

I'm just saying, as long as I have breath in my body, no matter how bad it may seem, I won't change a thing, because I have come through the fire and weathered the storm, and I am STILL here! What hasn't killed me has only made me stronger, and I am all the better for it! I love my life! Even at its most horrible times, I won't change my life ... my life's just fine!

See, Mary's right. It feels great when you are doing the things that you want to do! Once you stop living your life for everyone else around you and start living it for you and only you, the level of satisfaction that you reach is beyond description. Do you understand where you have to be in life to be able to truly believe the lyrics of this song for yourself? I do, and I beg of you, don't make the same mistake that I did. Don't  let the best parts of your life pass you by before you get there.

So, babies, take this one with you today as a little motivation. Play the video again. Start your day with this song. Listen to the words. Type them up and put them on the wall of your office. Put them on your bathroom mirror. Commit them to memory. But most importantly, LIVE THEM!

I'm out!

*Hey Roosevelt ... I did you one better than a picture! I gave you a video!!! Much love! Muah!*